Relationship advice for the rest of us…

In a world where relationships have become delicate and precarious, one could do with as much relationship advice as one can get. This post is intended to help you discover how you can nurture a relationship without feeling stressed or anxious. Any relationship that requires one to pretend to be somebody else is not worth the while, whereas a relationship that makes one want to improve oneself so that the relationship strengthens is one worth pursuing. This post will talk about the factors that are essential to keep a relationship alive.

There are key factors that go into making a relationship strong; there is no rule of the thumb that works for everyone; nevertheless, there are certain suggestions that are bound to improve any relationship:

·      Maintain honesty and transparency – it is better that somebody hates you for what you are than love you for what you are not

·      Learn to say no – oftentimes relationships wane under the pressure of things that one is forced to do to please the other person. Do what you think you are comfortable doing and say a polite and gentle yet firm no to what you don’t feel comfortable about

·      Do not nag – nagging often kills a relationship. When you do need to get across to the other person say what you have to say and repeat it once at the most

·      Keep the trust – this works both ways, you need to live up to the trust of the other person and trust the other person as well

·      Give each other space

·      Compliment and appreciate the other person

·      Keep your expectations to the bare minimum that way you will be able to appreciate

Relationships are about happiness; the above suggestions will help you retain the spark of happiness in any relationship.

Going Bananas

One of my friends text me this pic.  Sharing it for laughs!

When Men From Mars Attack

Most times, I do not get the thought processes of men and lately there is a man in particular who has me confused,  befuddled, and irritated as hell. 

About three weeks ago I moved in with an ex-boyfriend because my place needed some repairs.  He offered his home to me and I gladly accepted. I figured that most times, we get along and this could be a positive experiment both ways. I moved in and happily started throwing in my additional two hands to the daily chores. I cleaned, I did laundry, I grocery shopped, and, on occasion cooked. I wanted to make my being in his man cave as painless as possible for both.  Alas, even after contributing to the household in these ways, he has still found it within this solid block brain to actually ask for rent. Wait; he did not only ask me for rent, he wants $100 per night! 

To this point, it has taken a whole lot on my part to not go to war, because, after all, I still needed a place to sleep. The hits continue to roll in as last night, we went shopping last night for some general supplies and I could not believe my ears when he turned to me and said, “I am not paying for toilet tissue because you use more of it than I do.” Does he not get the fact that I have willingly jumped in with both hands and feet on deck to assist with chores and groceries? I would have willingly given him rent money as well, but, not $100 a day. Did I mention that he does not live in a penthouse suite, but a standard run of the mill tiny 2-bedroom apartment? 

Thankfully, the repairs at my place should be completed within the next week and I will be able to move out soon. How can he not see that I was so flattered that he stepped up and offered an ex-flame a place to stay that I would have given him just about anything within reason? Is $100 per day really within reason? 

Love Advice - From a banana?

While scrolling through facebook, I stumble upon some back yard relationship advice.  If you are in a troubled relationship, just ask your local banana, who, by the way, is likely divorced with a string of failed relationships under his or her belt.  If you think you have some good advice to share, please weigh in.  Caution: take advice at your relationships own risk!


GT: I have a handful of friends that seem to break up then get back on a regular basis. With every breakup they act like the world has come to an end. When they get back its like they JUST found true love! Then they repeat the cycle... I find it hilarious! They were doomed from the first cycle and don't know it...
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GT:  Just an observation...  Saturday at 6:37pm · Like



KR: That's f'n pathetic...they are doomed. But than again there are only so many to choose from on the island.  Saturday at 7:32pm · Like · 


 

JF: ‎...i should have joined the active army after college,I was already in the reserves. Very True.  Saturday at 7:58pm · Like


 

MJ:  I am just happy that I am not one of your friends, otherwise I would tell you to mind your own business!  Saturday at 8:08pm · Like · 


 

LA:  ppl do changeSaturday at 8:21pm · Like


 

GT: ‎@MJ, mind your own business!! @Jeff, uh, cool! @KR, u know what I mean! @LA, don't kid yourself! Lol... permanent changes? Haven't seen it :(  Saturday at 8:26pm · Like · 


 

KR: Many times people are AFRAID to be alone so they keep going back to the person that they know is not right for them. They may require a serious intervention. Intervention like - "Throw a nasty ass old puppy eaten slippah' at their head like in a numb chuck motion" lmao. I'm guilty of doing it too but learned what my own worth and happiness was.  Yesterday at 4:52am · Like



MF: GT, don't you find it hilarious when divorced people give relationship advice as if they got it right?  21 hours ago · Like · 


 

GT: Live and learn huh!? Its sad for me to see friends doing this, at years on end! Its crazy!  21 hours ago · Like


 

MJ: It's live and learn only if you have learned anything! Of course, this isn't the land of plenty when it comes to acceptable/qualified single adults. If I am going to fall in the muddy waters of love, it will be unconditionally.  21 hours ago · Like


 

GT:  Unconditionally!? What's that!? Never heard of the concept ....  21 hours ago · Like


 

MJ: LOL I know you haven't heard of that concept. It's too complicated to break it down on fb but essentially it's that person who loves you including all of your faults despite the fact that your a big asshole. That person is always there to catch you when you fall and faces life's challenges standing beside you. You will easily know this person, if you ever meet them, because you will say to yourself "wow, I have done some f'd up shit and he or she is still in my corner.  21 hours ago · Like ·



Sucker Punch - Who gets the swag?

Our Banana Moments

Readers be forewarned, as the content to follow is a rant, albeit this banana’s rant.  So, Doo Funny Banana (Doo Funny) has decided to leave our particular bunch and I want to know who gets the swag.  More specifically, who gets the Cuisinart blender, microwave oven, coffee pot, air mattress, lap top computer, and the Shark Vac then Steam Mop?  These items are just a portion of the swag that I so generously loaned, gave or bought (not a gift) for Doo Funny and I want them back.  Maybe the problem is in the definition of a gift.  Do not begin to feel sorry for Doo Funny because he has gotten rather nice gifts…4 brand new Dueler Tires for his truck, Ralph Lauren Polo shirts, Burberry Cologne, numerous assortments of kitchen utensils, bathroom décor, and hundreds of dollars spend on dining out.  As you can see, from the impressive list of gifts, it is only right that he return the items that were not gifts.  Doo Funny indomitably disagrees (hence the handle of Doo Funny) with my demands.  Instead, he insists upon labeling me as petty while demanding that I never call or text him again.  This is a mighty fine conundrum! Apparently, while he was enjoying purple label treatment, I was not behaving at all out of the ordinary.  After all, he relished the fine dining and our “throw it in the bag” style of shopping. Sadly, at this point, all I can do is rant and prattle on about this situation. Doo Funny has made up his mind that he, under every circumstance, is going keep everything down to the chopsticks.  I feel bad, in advance, for the poor sap to follow him, as he will get nothing more than a roll of cheap toilet paper to wipe his little (or big) bottom.  I will be the one who changes the Charmin roll for the off-brand, guaranteed to take two layers of skin, sandpaper roll whenever he comes to visit.

12 Ways to Manage Anger - Part 2 of 2

Nurse's Notes

1. Aim to be a good role model by learning to control anger.
2. Go for a quick walk or bike ride to blow off steam
3. Jot down a list of proper ways to handle your anger
4. Make time to relax and do something you enjoy every day.
5. Never use physical violence, no matter how angry you are.
6. Question why something upsets you and what you could do differently next time.
7. Repeat a calming word or phrase to yourself, such as “take it easy” or “relax.”
8. Try writing down your feelings to get them out.
9. Use humor when appropriate to lighten tense situations.
10. Visualize a relaxing scene or pleasant experience from your past.
11. You sometimes need help to make changes.  Seek a counselor’s advice if needed.
12. Get enough sleep.  Your patience level is lower when you are tired.

Really? He Sex Rations?

My significant other calls himself a “camel.”  I must have found the only man in the world who rations sex!  Do or say something that offends him and that is it; you will get none for a while.  I am currently in the midst of one such punishment.  We have not had sex since December!  I do not want to cheat and I do not like toys, I mean why should I when there is a warm body next to me!  I have no idea what to do next but the more he rations, the more sex is on my mind.  Thank you for allowing me to rant.

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